Dependent Origination

Gone Girl

Posted on: February 5, 2015


表象上面和几年前一个案子很像 查了一下 scott peterson 典型的美国家庭 三十几岁的老公和老婆 老婆怀了七个月的孕 xmas夜从家里消失 最后也翻出来老公的teenage情人

但是书要深刻多了 前面三分之一其实有点儿没意思 这可能也是我几年前这书就是一本很火的小说时候没看下去的原因吧 意思从第二部分才开始有起来 印象最深刻的是结尾是关于无条件的爱的论述 how unconditional love is undisciplined love and the way she loves him is to make him be a better himself (for a facade of herself, in fact)

although it is completely contrary to what i believe (that you should live to be true to yourself), it is still one way of living – put up the facade, and internalize that the facade is something you need to keep on in order to be “happy”. that statement alone (together with how they solved their marriage problem) makes the book a very worthwhile read. it is not about the usual crap of how to make a marriage work – no it is not about communication and compromise. it is about change. that you have to change, you have to be a better self, to live up to “love”.


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