Dependent Origination

Archive for February 2015

虽然又是一个完美男主和灰姑娘的爱情故事 同样的没法理解他们那么深刻的爱情从何而来 但是却不难看 事实上 还挺好看的 结尾如果是悲剧 故事的力量会更大 但是作者可能没有这个心肠吧

好看的主要因素在女主的性格上 阳光开朗健康豁达 肯为自己的未来付出努力 遇到爱不放手 从头到尾没有提过一句类似我用自己的青春怀念你 你怎么能这样对我的话 她爱 所以她随心而居 没有怨对 因而非常惹人喜爱

比较出奇的地方男主是残疾 don’t worry 男主的其他地方都是完美的 完美的身世 完美的外表 完美的性格 情不知所起 一往而深

自从发现了武志红的博客就想看很久了 但是看了还有有点失望的 学到了一些东西 比如寻找愤怒之前的感觉 比如为什么有人明明在一个downward spiraling的behavior pattern里面却就是自己走不出来呢?一定是因为一开始的时候这个behavior pattern曾经给过他好处 书里引用power of now的地方也很多 但是总的感觉就是深度不够 分析不够 scratching the surface 还不如直接去看power of now, for example 有些部分的分析不如直接去研究佛法的内容 讲得透彻许多


表象上面和几年前一个案子很像 查了一下 scott peterson 典型的美国家庭 三十几岁的老公和老婆 老婆怀了七个月的孕 xmas夜从家里消失 最后也翻出来老公的teenage情人

但是书要深刻多了 前面三分之一其实有点儿没意思 这可能也是我几年前这书就是一本很火的小说时候没看下去的原因吧 意思从第二部分才开始有起来 印象最深刻的是结尾是关于无条件的爱的论述 how unconditional love is undisciplined love and the way she loves him is to make him be a better himself (for a facade of herself, in fact)

although it is completely contrary to what i believe (that you should live to be true to yourself), it is still one way of living – put up the facade, and internalize that the facade is something you need to keep on in order to be “happy”. that statement alone (together with how they solved their marriage problem) makes the book a very worthwhile read. it is not about the usual crap of how to make a marriage work – no it is not about communication and compromise. it is about change. that you have to change, you have to be a better self, to live up to “love”.

February 2015
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